Forgiving dissonance: healing from illusion of separation.
This is big. And hard.
Forgiving others for not being able to resonate with your message, your intentions, purpose and needs.
Probably more that I can begin to think of.
It's a profound need for reflection with so much going on and polarization ( separation) being more apparent and more painful to us all, than it's ever been.
A lot of us have felt unseen, unheard and undervalued for majority of our lives.
It was easy to give into the idea that we don't belong or perhaps, there's something wrong about who we are on core level.
Some of us, like myself, have come a long way in healing in relation to these things.
And yet, it is like everyone now gets to have an opinion about how we should be or live - - even without knowing what we've been through, what we had to overcome and heal from, or who we are meant to be in our authentic form of expression.
I can only hope we can all agree on one simple thing : We all deserve to be happy in our own way and right, and we all deserve having our psychological, emotional and physical needs met.
In division, it becomes very hard keeping this in mind.
We've come so far, to now having to struggle keeping what we worked so hard for, to have and become.
By becoming, I mostly mean healing. Healing is quite the endeavor and it takes many, many years to really unlearn, to integrate and to mend what was once an experience and expression of pain and disconnection.
In spiritual community, this division becomes all the more apparent when "spiritual values" clash with "material values" as if we live in two distinctly different and opposing worlds.
This is an issue whenever we speak of Oneness and unconditional acceptance, as the attitude of "either - or" places us all to square one. It's my needs (Validation) vs. your needs (Survival) , Us. (Free) vs. Them (Paid)
and so on.
And all of this, perpetuates not only division, but also a deep level of ignorance - in which, not only we disconnect from one another, but we also turn away from broader understanding of life, compassion for another life worthy of support, turn away from being of service to one another and in doing so being mutually empowering and supportive…
and by the looks of it — without even realizing, in defense of one side (of the same coin), just the fact that we are choosing a side — shows how we turn away from another, and in doing so disown a part of ourselves, seen as separate , in the very mirror image of ourselves.
Now, as I may understand that, resistance to something we have had a difficult time in overcoming, is meant to create an illusion of righteousness, of strength — when in fact, its only a fear of falling back to our old habits and ways of being.
However, balance is the key.
Balance is the time when the pendulum stops swinging and we stop having the need of choosing sides. Because we are whole.
When we are secure in our own preferred system of values, beliefs and lifestyle, allowing others to be a full expression of their own (not ours) becomes truly easy. We don’t need to invalidate others for sake of our own validation. We get to live in our own authentic, individual Truth, embrace it and Embody it wholly in our lives — safe in knowing that every expression is valid, beautiful and necessary.
Our personal Truth, and personal Truth of others, become a unified whole in the tapestry of existence. They are not in discord, or anyhow threatening or invalidating to one another.
Forgive others for wanting different things. They have a life too.
Co-create and co-exist and if you aren’t able to make peace in close proximity…simply let each other be and move on to establishing different connections.
Differentiation is safe and completely harmless, if we allow each other the space to co-exist truthfully.
Today, as I write this, I am hoping that one life is equally important as another. We don’t need to take away from someone’s mouth to feel fed.
Happy integration, everyone!
