I’m moving on: “Quitting is for winners!”
I am all about sticking to your commitments, however, may it not be misleading. Even our commitments have to be prioritised and filtered. It is crucial to have a clear foundation commitment, that every other commitment will be extended to — and a good, solid foundation as we all know, will determine the endurance and quality of any further progress we make.
Let us keep in mind that not all commitments are the same, and not all come from the same intention and motivation, so naturally they cannot be adressed equally. As we progress, it would only make sense that the conditions and reference points are on a higher level, of integrity, of clarity and purpose. This is to say we must understand our stage of progression, and the conditions that influence our commitments as they are made.
I’m saying this from the experience of a person who had her share of holding onto something, for longer than necessary, and for all the lesser reasons. This had taught me to pick my battles more wisely, and to know the difference between times, when it makes sense to keep holding on and when it’s time to let go.
That’s it, I quit, I’m moving on!
I cannot ever translate the feeling of dead weight dropping, how liberating that can feel, but you’ve probably had a point in your life when you could feel as the weight lifts off and your lungs are filled yet again, with sweet, fresh air! They say, as you go on staring at the closed door, you miss out on opportunities presenting themselves to you. I understand it’s not easy letting go of something we’ve invested so much into, even if it’s our own suffering, but at the end of the day, closing that connection prevents us from investing even more, in trying to revive something already withered. Things that we’re holding onto are taking a hold of us.
That feeling of ease, is the very confirmation of making the right decision!
Sometimes we feel guilty for wanting an easier, better quality of life. Guilt is one of those things that perpetuates not only attachment, but also accepting responsibility that isn’t even ours. When we are in alignment without our core desires, we begin to understand that it’s perfectly fine to both — want something, and also not want it. Or not want it any longer. Saying farewell to commodity of familiarity, to what was, to who we once were — opens the door to the new, wiser version of ourselves. I suppose, letting go of our former selves is our greatest challenge. Our attachments will often manifest in going back to whatever keeps the connection alive.
This is the most common reason behind staying in careers that feel out of alignment, unhealthy habits and relationships. And if you think quitting is lame, think about how it feels sticking with something that really isn’t worthy of your attention, energy or time.
Quitting can often mean commitment to growth. Usually it means exactly that. Allowing ourselves to surpass what no longer serves nor resonates, on the journey of our becoming, is only a testimony of our regenerative power.
Don’t be afraid of change!
Change is easier than one might think. It’s resistance to change that makes it feel like it’s difficult. Once resistance is out of the way, we are caught in the powerful stream of life that navigates the course with grace and ease. All we have to do is follow through the road that is shown to us. Life has a way of guiding us through the pathways we never knew existed or deemed possible.
Never regret your growth. There is no attachment worthy of your stagnancy. Not to the past, not to your previous phases of growth, not to other people (some of which can only resonate with who you once were), not to your promises and commitments you’ve made unless they somehow still make sense and benefit you in the present moment. You deserve this. You deserve to reclaim yourself from anything and everything that is out of alignment.
Ultimately your Faith has to be greater than your Fear. Your Faith in good things that are coming, better things. Faith in yourself, in your Path, in being provided for in ways beyond your immediate awareness.
Step out that door. Take a deep breath…and trust in the new beginning.
So..what are you committed to and why?
