It’s not a competition, it’s convergence.

2 min readOct 25, 2021


Some say we should be grateful for what we have: job, house, health and personally I’d like to also give an honorable mention to relationships.

All this on a notion that those unemployed, homeless, sick and single people might wish for what we have. However, as we humble ourselves to realize that lives of other people aren’t about us, and hopefully they know that too, let’s take a closer look and elaborate:

Your job isn’t the dream of the unemployed. Your job is your dream, hopefully. Otherwise your job isn’t even your own dream. Lucky are those who can connect work with passion. But no one ever dreams about a job they hate doing, even if they’re in need of funds. They just settle for it.

Your house isn’t dream of the homeless, because guess what? There have been billionaires who have walked out of their luxuries into homelessness, no matter how crazy it may seem to some of us. Security is nice, sanitary life conditions are nice, knowing where your next meal is coming from is nice — but the being a house owner isn’t everyone’s chosen lifestyle and can be completely unrelated to any of those things.

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Your health isn’t the dream of the sick, either. Their own health is, and not even that is always the case. People don’t always want to get better. Some people even want to die, or at least self destruct. as difficult it maybe to accept, this is a part of life.

Not every relationship is the same, and it’s difficult to evaluate any relationship without taking part in it. People may be enchanted by the sight of a person, or the idea of a person and this would not guarantee a happy relationship. You think loneliness sucks? Try being miserable with someone else.

We are perfectly capable of appreciating what we have, without making it as if everyone should live their lives as we do, or that they should want what we want for ourselves.

Especially when it’s all very relative.

Every life is beautiful and worthy of living. We judge people as if they’d have less than us, because we seem to have something they don’t — — but how narrow sighted that is: they also have what we don’t have — a different kind of experience that births a different kind of wisdom.

Every life is valid and dignified in existence. There’s more than one way to live, love, learn and be happy.

We think we are so much better that people should be envious or craving what we have or who we are, that they should live in comparison to us.

Perhaps it’s just the story we tell ourselves to feel better about our place in the world?

This isn’t a competition.

It’s convergence.




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