Like attracts Like vs. Opposites Attract

Do you believe that “like attracts like”

Or that “opposites attract” ?

See, because if you believe that like attracts like, then you also inevitably realize your likeness with whatever is you’re resisting — and that means uncomfortable confrontation with the fact that, you have some serious shit going on with yourself as well,

Versus

Engaging in polarized finger pointing dynamic, while pretending your hands are clean.

Do you have the courage to stand behind me too -

when that same me too means that you take FULL responsibility for your (damaging) energy, intentions and behavior?

Not just me too as “I have also been wronged, violated and victimized” , but, me too — as an active participant in whatever was going on, and possibly even me too as someone who have done incredible amounts of damage being however intentional or unintentional.

This makes for a huge difference in your perception, your story, your interpretation and the entire way you’re going about dealing with something.

This is you coming out of the bubble in which you’re ONLY the good person to which bad things happen, and everyone else is just bad and wrong — as being opposite of yourself.

Photo by Road Trip with Raj on Unsplash

We so often vilify others in order to sustain comforting lies of our own heroic character. But we’ve also been a villain in someone’s story.

Do you take the good with the bad and bad with the good or you’re still playing “picture perfect” while pushing discomfort under the rug?

Do you have the courage to say “I’ve been that person” when it looks bad on paper?

To say that I’ve also been:
Inconsistent
Inconsiderate
Crossings boundaries
Out of my integrity
I’ve been dishonest
Unfair
Unfaithful
Procrastinating
Judgmental

Fill in the blank for yourself:
_________

…and then say:

I accept that I am beautifully human
I apologize
I am learning
I am facing the consequences of my actions

I have the power to do better, now that I know better.

DISCLAIMER: this post has nothing to do with actual #MeToo movement, it simply portrays positions of accountability in human relationships